Part Two: Parting ways with ‘Self-Pity’ after a long journey together
In my previous article I talked about how self-pity was a part and parcel of my life.
The one constant factor during all these years of feeling sorry for myself was my lack of self esteem and absence of my own identity.
Although I turned to self-pity for many years, I still had this desire somewhere deep down to achieve something and be known for something.
So after the lowest point of my life I threw the biggest pity party for myself and then stepped up and started working with a friend of mine in the field of Digital Marketing.
After a while something started to feel right. Suddenly I realised marketing was my cup of tea which I failed to understand all these years.
Now marketing is a field where companies reach out to their target audience and attract them towards their product/service. Gradually I found this to be an interesting field as marketing requires creativity and an understanding of human behaviour and what the consumer wants.
Being the keen observer that I was all these years I got a sense of what people want in their lives and what brings them happiness. So I was able to connect my understanding of people and felt I can apply this in the field of marketing. Besides I realised that I have a craving for creativity.
That small desire to hang in and hope to be something in life is taking shape now and ever since I discovered that my true interest lies in marketing I connected the dots and found my passion and since then self-pity has been a thing of the past.
What I realised through my journey so far is that no matter how depressed you are and how much you like to see yourself as a worthless person, dedicating a small amount of time (10%) on trying to identify the skills you’ve got and even pursuing your hobbies (whatever it may be) goes a long way in shaping your confidence. There will be moments in life where you will be sick and tired of feeling low and depressed and at some point you will want to stand up and be counted for something. At that moment look at your skills and hobbies and give yourself time to pursue them.
People often don’t even know what skills they possess. It took me bloody 30 years to realise that I possess skills that can be put to good use in marketing.
I feel it’s important for each one of us to discuss about ourselves with close friends or ask near and dear ones about what we are good at. You might be surprised with some answers that you get back in return.